I am growing increasingly more uncomfortable with the current attitudes about marriage. It’s not enough that several states have abandoned the biblical model of marriage between one woman and one man by legalizing homosexual “marriage.” Equally troubling is the notion that marriage can be dissolved when one partner grows dissatisfied with his or her spouse.
It’s time to ask an important question, namely – “Who put the lock in wedlock?” It’s time that we reexamine the covenant of marriage in a world that is desperate to modify the definition of marriage and marginalize anyone who has the audacity to cling to God’s standard.
THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE
The answer to the question begins with God. God designed marriage to provide mutual companionship between one man and one woman. “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”” (Genesis 2:18, ESV). God graciously provided a wife for Adam, someone with whom he could share intimate friendship and togetherness.
Since man and women are create in God’s image (imago Dei), their marital relationship should reflect that image and ultimately glorify our great God. The prophet Isaiah indicates that all of life, including marriage is for the purpose of bringing glory to God: “Everyone who is called by my name, whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made.”” (Isaiah 43:7, ESV)
Additionally, God designed marriage as a means of rearing children. “And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth”” (Genesis 1:28, ESV). It must be stated in emphatic terms that God has always intended the marriage relationship to be monogamous; between one man and one woman.
Finally, marriage is a portrait of Christ’s relationship to the church (Eph. 5:22-33). Scripture instructs “wives to submit to and respect their husbands as to the Lord” (v. 22). God’s Word explains, “the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church” (v. 23). The mandate before every husband is to love their wives as Christ loved the church (vv. 25, 28). Paul reaches into the Old Testament and explains the rationale behind such self-sacrifice: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Eph. 5:31; c.f. Gen. 2:24). Clearly, God intends marriage to serve as a mirror; to vividly portray the relationship Christ the Bridegroom has with His bride, the church.
It becomes obvious that God put the lock in wedlock. Indeed, he is the Originator of marriage. But as we shall see, the marital bond involves a unique and binding covenant; a covenant between a man and a woman; a covenant that is designed to endure until death.